Responsibility

Today I read in the paper about a little girl who was three years old. She was a beautiful and curious child. During the Independence Day celebrations for her neighborhood block party, a large group of motorcycles ran the streets speeding around without thought and care in the world. The little girl stuck her head out between two cars to see where the noise was coming from and one of the bikes struck her so hard she went flying "like a helicopter" across the street and landed dead on the ground. The biker who hit her did not stop but the other bikers did. After a vigil took place for this little girl the biker turned himself in. He is all of twenty two years old.

The comments in the paper accused the mother of child of neglect. No child that young should be near a street without an adult. They accused the young man of cowardliness. He ran away.
Though I agree with both statements, I also have to think about how things like this happen. It was a block party. Everyone was there. Kids everywhere, adults gathered round. It was a day of relaxation.

The young man was speeding. He should be charged with reckless endangerment and many other things. How many of you know of young men who do things like that? What about the other young men he was with? Shouldn't they be charged too? I am sure the reason he took off was to save his own neck. I'm sure the people who were there would have killed him if he had stuck around. That, and pure guilt. Young people who have not matured, will run out of guilt. Nobody likes to feel that way, and his was the big one. He killed an innocent child. I cant imagine how panicked he was. I'm sure he was terrified.

Being from a neighborhood, I can see how something like this could happen. Being a mother of young adults I can see how this could happen. It just goes to show, you might be old enough by law but are you old enough in reality. Moms normally are very strict about where their children roam and who watches them. Young men shouldn't have a license if they tend to be reckless. Blame is always sought when tragedy happens. The fact is, it was an accident caused by two people being careless. If one of them, just one, had not been "as careless" this wouldn't have happened. Everyone knows you do not walk near painters on a ladder. Motorcycles shouldn't be speeding in neighborhoods, and children shouldn't be near the street.

I would like to say that I feel bad for everyone who was there and for all the people involved. What a horrible thing to have had happen. Bless the little girl whose name is Asia. Her Picture will be burned in my head for years to come. I have grand daughters her age and hope that they will be safe. I know in my heart of hearts that no child is safe "all" the time, Just like no adult is responsible all the time. We are human, and we all pay the price for it.

I will sit crying for this child and the people who will be forever affected by her birth, life, and death. this is so sad.

Perspective Then and Now

Did you ever notice that people who complain about things other people do, often do the exact same thing and don't realize it? Did you ever notice someone complaining about another person complaining? Kind of funny isn't it? I used to get irritated and sometimes down right angry at the irony that I see everyday. Now it makes me laugh. Sometimes I'm told that I just don't understand, and that makes me laugh even louder.

I was talking to a very dear friend of mine this week about all the stupid drama in her life. Drama about kids, court, health, her friends, her family and on and on she went. She was complaining about how complicated her life was because she felt the responsibility to straighten out everyone's problems. By doing this she has created her own problems. She has neglected herself to the point her life is miserable.

I have talked to her about her constant involvement with other peoples lives to no avail. I have told her about how it would affect her health, to no avail. She has now come to me with issues that nobody can do anything about because things have gotten way out of control. I wanted to cry for her but instead I laughed. She didn't understand how much I really understood her difficulty. Then I told her to stop, just stop. Stop asking me to fix something she did and will continue to do because she WANTS to do it. Stop complaining. Stop being stressed if it is something she wants to do. If she doesn't want the problems that go with it STOP DOING IT. Then I told her I was gonna kick her ass for letting it get this far. Then she laughed. She laughed at herself, not at me. She knew I was right, but then went to have lunch with a troubled friend with more issues than a full blown psychiatrist can shake a stick at.

When I hung up the phone I roared. I mean really...how? huh? HA HA HA HA OMG and WTF!

They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result. I don't know about that but it sure is funny to watch. I have grown so much in the past five years or so, that it is hard to see people in the same light as I used to. I cherish my friend because her soul deeply cares for people. I also cherish her because she makes me laugh. I cannot worry about her because this is how she wants to be.

Celebrate life!