It is Monday Dec.17th 2012. Last Friday some manic 20 year old shot his mother then went to an elementary school and killed 25 more people including 20 children ages 6 and 7.
There has been much debate over gun control laws, mental health availability and security in schools.
I believe that there aren't enough mental health hospitals and beds available. That being said I will stand by my feelings on this.
I am a mother of an adult child who is troubled. I have tried to "make" him seek out help. Because he refused, there is nothing I can do. But I wont make excuses for him. He is in and out of trouble, drugs, depression, and friends who break the law. It took a lot for me to open my eyes and stop making excuses for him. He is what some might call a high functioning mental case. ADHD, dyslexia, depression, and signs of autism. He has always been anti social and never was a talker. He has ALWAYS had a fascination for guns and the military even as a toddler. When he got in trouble at home he would just "check out" and not respond to punishment or words of wisdom. He acted like his actions were all important and my opinion didn't matter.
After 2 guns turned up missing from my home and, he refused to get a job and pay child support for his daughter, I then realized this is NOT a person who has the capacity to care the way he should.
It broke my heart to face the truth about my kid. I gave birth to a possible nut case. He belongs in jail for drugs and stealing and before he snaps or something. Sure, he is calm and loving and peaceful most of the time, but then there are the times when he just cant be reached. Not violent, just unfeeling. THOSE ARE DANGER SIGNS!
I cant help but think about the mother of the young man who committed the murders of 20 children. The mother who never wanted to admit violence as a possibility. She was a teacher, trained to notice such things. Why couldn't she separate her love as a mother and see her son for the monster he was becoming.
What about all the other mothers? Are they just as blind to their own children? I know mental health care is not what it should be. I know "jail" isn't what we want for our children, but if it is the only option available, save the innocent.
We all view our children as people to love. think of Charles Manson Ted Bundy Jeffery Dahmer and so many more. You think of them as monsters but they started out as somebody's child. Someone loved by their parents. I cant help but think that we need to stop making excuses for the behavior of our children and do the right thing. Love isn't always a hug and a kiss. Love means you do the right thing for the person regardless of what that right thing is. Even if its jail or mental institution.
This is what should be taught to people. This is where mankind is failing. We learned about mental illness and the humanity of it and forgot about the victims and innocent. It is and undeniable truth.
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