ramble of the day

Today I was having a conversation with a friend known to be a bit of a hot head. It seems everything that he doesnt agree with upsets him to some degree. He tries so hard to be open minded but there are some places he just cant go. I love this man like I love my brother. He has trouble accepting that someone might say something bad or what might be perceived as bad and it aggravates him no end. I find that yes it is aggravating. Is it that this person (insulting) thinks so little of someone else they have to voice it? Is it that we anger over this because it is in some way true? Can someone really see this in a person and is just being honest? In that case who should we be angry at? I personally think that people put labels on others because they have to compartmentalize personalities as their own lives have been experienced. Someone might call me a bitch and fat old hag because they are used to having sweet young pretty submissive complacent women around them. either that or I remind them of someone they have already had a bad experience with. It has to reflection on me and my life what so ever. I was the same person a minute before the statement was made. It will however allow me to see them in a new light. I dont have to like what they say but what they say is just a window into their lives. It is not an easy concept. We have all had our feelings hurt by words. But I believe we need to see why it is we are upset. I cannot change what people see in me. I cannot change why they see it. I can only hope that in the end my heart will show them that perhaps they have put me in the wrong category. As for my dear sweet brother from another mother, he knows I adore him...even when he gets pissy.